My fiance wants to make our cat our best man.

[MrLang]

I think the issue of being too young and asking the internet if having a cat as a best man is a good idea go hand in hand.

How isolated must you have this boy if he has nobody closer to him than YOUR cat? He's 18? He has no idea what he wants and if he never takes the time by himself to figure it out he'll suddenly realize that one day and run hard and fast.

Sorry for being the grumpy guy expressing his opinion on the net, but this has drain on society written all over it. I hope you're not thinking about having children at this point.

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I think the issue of being too young and asking the internet if having a cat as a best man is a good idea go hand in hand.

How isolated must you have this boy if he has nobody closer to him than YOUR cat? He's 18? He has no idea what he wants and if he never takes the time by himself to figure it out he'll suddenly realize that one day and run hard and fast.

Sorry for being the grumpy guy expressing his opinion on the net, but this has drain on society written all over it. I hope you're not thinking about having children at this point.

[jschwe]

I am not going to get into the age thing, there is a whole debate there. I will say, though, that I tend to take issue with people saying that you "have" to date others first or "have" to be alone for a while before marrying. This may be true for some people but is not a hard rule. My husband and I were together for almost 8 years before we married, and neither of us really dated before. The idea that we shouldn't be together because we didn't try out others first sort of gets to me. What's true for one person isn't true for everyone.

As far as the cat thing goes, I think that A) a cat is almost always a bad idea with a ton of people around. They tend not to listen to people at the best of times and B) your fiancée has three years. I have made a lot of good friends in three years.

[Konotashi]

I personally don't think it's a good idea. (Just referring to the cat here).

As cool as it may sound, there is SO much that can go wrong. You'd likely need to hire someone to make sure the cat stays put, the cat could get nervous, try to bolt, see something that's more interesting to him than your wedding and try to wander off, etc. etc.

I could see if it was a dog. Dogs (depending on the individual) live to please their people and will do just about everything for them. Cats... well - WE are THEIR slaves. As far as they're concerned, you are there to pet them at their will and fill their bowl and adhere to their will - not the other way around.

I foster for a cat rescue, along with owning my own cat. My cat is the most chill, mellow, 'whatever-to-the-world' cat I have EVER seen. There is no way ANY cat (of the 80ish we've fostered) or my cat would be willing to put up with that.

[Anya]

Whoah, this thread made me way angrier than it should have...why on earth is everyone jumping on her age? She's an adult, and I don't think anyone asked for your opinions...?

OP, I think it's an awesome idea, but have to agree that it probably wouldn't be the sensible thing- BUT- it really depends on the cat. For instance, I once had a wonderful, laid-back people-pleasing cat who rode around on people's shoulders, and this would have been right up his alley.

Also, congrats on your engagement! ^_^ Don't let the fuddie-duddies get to you. Last time I checked, this was a forum geared toward animal advice, and not relationship advice. So, yeah. They can take a hike.

[Rickys_Reptiles]

It's a cute idea, but I don't think it's a good idea. What if your cat gets spooked and runs away? Kind of puts a damper on the wedding.

Ps. Congrats on your upcoming nuptials

[regiusloki]

Cats rarely do what you want them to do... It's all about making them think they're the boss, haha. He'd probably make it half way down the aisle, sit down and lick himself! Great wedding photo op!

That doesn't mean a picture of cat in a bowtie wouldn't be the cutest darned thing ever. He can still be an "honorary" Best Man!


And the age thing? I have a friend of mine who has been with her husband for over a dozen years. They've been together since high school, have only been with each other, have two amazingly beautiful girls, own their own home, have great jobs, are over the age of 30 and are ridiculously in love with each other after all this time, so much so it's almost sickening (but not, ya know?). I have another friend who is not quite as old (mid-later 20's), but has been with her husband for about 7 years now. Same thing. If I married the person I dated in high school or in my early 20's I'd be divorced twice over! But that doesn't mean a relationship like yours can't exist. For me, I waited until almost 30. It's what worked for me. You do what works for you and makes you happy.

[TheSnakeGeek]

guys this thread is almost a year old..

[Anya]

guys this thread is almost a year old..

Whoah, how did I miss that...

[Mephibosheth1]

Lol funniest thing ever...necromancy of old threads is always fun

[Konotashi]

guys this thread is almost a year old..

Wonder if they're still considering the cat as the best man? Or marriage. A lot changes in a year.